Showing posts with label relational missions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relational missions. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Pieces of my Heart

Have you ever visited somewhere and when you come back you can't stop thinking about it? And I don't mean when you take a vacation with your spouse to a quiet beach and long to be back there after returning to the chaos of everyday life. 

I'm talking about a longing to visit a place that touched your heart so much you want to go back. To see the people you met again. To see God's creation. To be away from all of the chaos a first world life holds so you can soak in God's presence. To hold hands and live life with people that do not know about the saving power grace holds.

That kind of love sticks with me as I left pieces of my heart back in Asia.



We knew God was calling us to go on this trip as a family. To bring both of our boys along side us. To share our family with them.

What we didn't know what the impact it would make.

We were told by others that on previous trips, they were greeted with scowls. With hard hearts. With disgust.

They hated us. And there are some reasons they rightfully can. And others that aren't built on truth. But regardless, we are the enemy. Isn't that always what Satan does? He builds walls through hate, anger, distrust, lies, and more lies.

But what he does not have power over is love.
Christ died as the ultimate love sacrifice.
We show our love for God by our love for others.

And there is no greater love than that of a child!

Look at these pictures.
These are the pictures of love.

What children can do through a smile is knock down walls in an instant that have been built up by the deceiver for years.









 

 


When we arrived, a dear friend of ours told me that people would physically take our youngest son out of my arms, but they wouldn't steal him. (How comforting!) They would just be drawn to him and desire to hold him.

And boy was he right.
Young and old alike wanted to hold him.
They wanted to make him smile, laugh, and giggle.

And because of the extrovert that he is, he gladly went.
Without hesitation he hugged them.
Kissed their cheek.
Loved on them.

And in turn, we had the privilege of witnessing the beauty of raw humanity through love.
They hugged him back.
They kissed him.
They loved on him.

We were no longer separated as them and us,
we were one in love.





When we visited a local village to see a historical fisherman's house, we passed by a neighborhood. As we walked by, people gathered just to watch us. I was able to take a quick photo. I love how they were peaking over the fence and I wished so much that we could go join them. That the walls were not separating us any longer. 

Maybe one day...



One of our guides especially fell in love with him.
She doted on him and would mimic his phrases, especially "mama! mama! mama!" And he loved on her as well. He even taught her how to do the "secret" handshake his big brother does with him. I love the last picture of them in the middle of that, giving each other a fist pump.






My favorite moment, however, was walking through the open market.
Pictures are not allowed here so I can only give my description to you.

There are rows and rows of merchants selling anything and everything. Our family of four was close together towards the end of our time walking through it. We had been inside the building and just walked outside to head back to the front. All of a sudden, one of the college students with us told me to stop and look up.

The rows were at least 8 deep and as long as you could see wide. A crowd had started to gather. Mouths were gaping wide at us and smiles were emerging. They all started waving and smiling. 

Lex waved back and with that action laughter and glee erupted.

That day changed me.
In an instant I saw the power of a child's smile.
I wished we could shake hands, and love on each and every one of them.
I wish I could speak with them and learn more about them.
But we had to keep moving.

That day, part of my heart stayed behind in that market.
And hopefully one day I will visit again.

Of course, who couldn't resist getting a hello from this cutie?




I am so glad we took our boys with us.
Was it hard?
Ummmmm, YES
for oh so many reasons!
But it was worth every penny raised, tears shed, restlessness, fear, uncomfortableness, and more because had we not taken them, we would never had experienced what God did that week.
And that made it worth all of it!


On a side note - 
Lex learned how to say hello in Korean when they were saying hello to him. As soon as we stepped in the market, he said hello back to a merchant. As she shrilled with glee, she handed him a piece of candy. Then 3 more did the same. He started saying hello to everyone we stepped in front of and all of them gave him something! It was like we were trick or treating in the market. I couldn't stop laughing! We had a bag full of treats by the time we left and he had learned that saying this word would get him stuff. They eat a lot of tomatoes for dessert so he had a few of them in the bag. Unfortunately, he HATES tomatoes. So when he would take a bite of one (before I could get it in the bag so we could wash it) he would spit it back out. Luckily they didn't take offense and just laughed about it.


And in case you were wondering, here is a picture of our team while we were there. Isn't the background majestic? It is definitely one of the most beautiful places I have ever visited in my lifetime.



I'll save my next post to focus on how they reacted to Kiir.
It is definitely its own post in the making!

To be continued in the very near future...



Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Deep Beauty

It's so hard to put our trip into words.

The things we saw
The people we met
The country in general...

I'm still sorting through the 4,639 pictures I took on this trip.
And that doesn't count the 50+ that were deleted before we could leave customs.

Some of those were my favorites.
Sorry I can't share them with you.

But I'll leave you with this picture of the sun setting across the ocean.
The sun and ocean that God made.
The ocean that travels throughout the entire world,
linking us to them
and the sun that we all share.

Words and pictures will come soon, I promise.

For now, hopefully you can see the beauty I saw last week.

A beauty that runs eternally deep.


Friday, October 03, 2014

Beautiful Day for a Trip Around the Globe


Isn't it beautiful?

God's creation always is.

In just a few days we will step foot on this soil.
We will get to see this beauty first hand.
We will get to meet the people that live here...
The people that God created.
And we will get to love them.

Please pray for us.
Pray for our team members by name:

Anthony B
Arianne
Cameron
Estefane
Maison
Taylor
Anthony I
Zachary
Johnny
Kelly
Shellie
Kiir
Lex

Pray for...

Safety
Peace
Team Unity
Opportunities
That we would be an encouragement
And for us to knock down walls the enemy has built up
Pray for the couples going that their marriage would honor God.
Pray for Kelly and I as we parent our children in front of them under a microscope.
Pray for our family left behind that they would feel peace while we are away.
Pray against any harm that is intended for us, such as nightmares or travel glitches.
Pray that we would show grace - in every single situation.
Pray that we would rest in Him and trust Him for ALL things.
Pray that they would notice a difference in how we live and how we love.
Pray that the Spirit would work through us and we would be willing to let Him move!


Please pray Ephesians 4:1-6 over us...

"Live a life worthy of the calling you have received. Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. There is one body and one Spirit - just as you were called to one hope when you were called - one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all."


and Isaiah 43:1-5

"Fear not, for I have redeemed you, I have summoned you by name; you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. For I am the Lord, your God, the Holy One of Israel, your Savior; I give Egypt for your ransom, Cush and Seba in your stead. Since you are precious and honored in my sight, and because I love you, I will give men in exchange for your life. Do not be afraid, for I am with you."


and Psalm 4:6

"Let the light of Your face shine upon us, O Lord."


We love you.
See you in 10 days...


Monday, September 29, 2014

21 and 21


For this entire month, I have had a 21 year old and a 21 month old.

I joked about it all month, but then it hit me...
This is fun and all, but I hope I don't have a 21 year old and 21 month old at the same time again! If that happened, we would have another teenager and a newborn baby at the same time. And y'all, that's not for the faint of heart! 

Babies go to bed early.
Teenagers stay up late.
Babies wake up in the middle of the night.
And the sun rises way too early!

But seriously, I wouldn't change a thing about any of it!



Having a 21 year old means you get to joke around and they actually get your humor (most of the time). They roll their eyes when you try and act cool or be funny. They try eating most things because it's adventurous. They can dress themselves! They still depend on you for things (because you make more money than they do) and so you get a great excuse to hang out with them - BUT they don't need you every single second of every single day.

Having a 21 month old means I hear "mama - holds yous" while getting hit on the legs or my pants pulled down because attention is needed ASAP all of the time. A 21 month old will try a lot of food I put in front of him, but spits a lot out as well. (We're working on this). But they also want your attention and demand you give it to them because you are their world! They want to do everything with you by their side because they love you so stinking much! Hugs, snuggles, kisses, reading, more snuggles, singing, playing and more. It's a fun age of soaking up everything and repeating everything they hear. They are sponges, adventure seekers, and little mini-me's.

But both of these put under 1 roof and it makes for an interesting life. 


When I was 21, my goal was to be married for a few years and have 3 kids by 32 and be in the process of adopting another couple.

Funny thing is, no matter how off track my life is from "my" plan, God's actually given me quite a bit from what I asked to begin with! And in all honesty, we could have 4 kids in the very near future (or heaven help us - 5!!!)

I promise I'm not crazy.
Promise.
Well, at least I don't think I've gone crazy yet.
We'll see what the next few months holds for me.

So I'm savoring being the mom of a 21 year old and a 21 month old.
Because it's what GOD planned for my life.
And it's just a little great.

He gave me the story of salvation wrapped up in my life story.

I was broken, needed a Savior, and He stepped in and radically changed my heart.

You see, I get to explain this story all of the time to perfectly good strangers.

When I take my older son out to eat and the waitress brings him the check because they think we're on a date. Yes, this has happened more times then I'd like to count. But then I get to graciously take the bill and explain that he's my son. (I tend to give a moment of hang time just to see their reaction - hope that's not too mean!) And then I have the opportunity to explain that we adopted this amazing man when he was a teenager because God told us to. And we are eternally blessed by him becoming a Carson!

Sometimes they walk off, a little stunned, and sometimes they ask questions. Other times I get a "you're crazy" look. It's okay, I understand.

I really love when we're all four together and they can't figure out who is who in the family. Just cracks me up watching people analyze us.

And now we're about to take our crazy looking family across the world to get stared at more and questioned more. 

It's why we're going. 
It's what we're counting on! 

They will be so bewildered by us they will ask our story.
And then we get to share!

Because of God's grace we get to share!


So please pray for opportunities.
Pray for patience as a parent.
Pray for protection over my family.
Pray that we will listen to the Holy Spirit guiding us when to talk and when to be silent.
And pray that we will knock down doors through the story God has given us for the gospel to be spread!


Friday, September 26, 2014

Family on Mission - Part 5 - It's Official!

As of this week, we are fully funded for our family to go on this trip!!!

I was so grateful to get that text message. But secretly, I was not shocked. About 2 months ago, I went into full panic that we would have to come up with the money ourselves and I had no idea where that would come from. Kelly and I prayed about it and felt such peace that the Lord would provide every last dime. So when I was told that we had some donations come in and we are not only fully funded but had a little extra to cover our meals we thought we would have to pay out of pocket for, I hate to say it, but as excited as I was, deep down in my heart I knew the Lord would provide. He always has and He always will!

I am so thankful for those that were obedient to the Spirit and gave towards this trip. I pray that you are extraordinarily blessed! I am grateful to walk this narrow path with you all. We love you!

- - -

So now it's really official...

We leave in exactly one week
Only seven days from today
This is really happening!

Next Friday we will board a plane to East Asia and will return 10 days later.

Look at this picture!
Isn't it beautiful!
It was taken by a team member last year on the trip.


I can't stop looking at it.
I'm mesmerized by sunrises and sunsets.

But as I look upon this picture, a particular verse keeps playing over and over in my head:

"You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven." 
- Matthew 5:14-16

This is our prayer for the trip.
To let our light shine before the people we meet. That they would see how we love God first, and love others second. Really love others. With the same passion that we love God. Radically life changing kind of love! And that kind of love makes us live our lives in a completely different way. A way that is foreign for them to understand.

We love them enough to come meet them.
We love them enough to (really) listen to them about their families 
and stories about their childhood and life.
We love them enough to share our most precious assets - our own children with them!
We love them because we share the same Creator! He loved us enough to create us. We must love Him enough to share with those that do not know.

One thing that keeps playing in my head is that I could have been born there. I don't know why God made me a white girl with believing parents in a good family with a great marriage and fabulous children living in a place where I have little fear and lots of privilege. 

Why was I not born there?
Why do I not suffer daily as they do?
Why them and not me?

But if I was, I would be desperate for someone to help me in my hopelessness. I would hope that someone would love me enough to show me God's love!

"Let the light of your face shine upon us, O LORD."
-Psalm 4:6

"I have made you a light for the Gentiles, that you may bring salvation to the ends of the earth."
-Acts 13:47

May we be a light.

- - -

So what can you do now?

PRAY!

Please pray for our team.
Safety
Unity
Jetlag
Peace
Opportunities
That we would be slow to speak and quick to listen.
That we would open doors for others to walk through after we leave.

Pray for the three couples going, that we would show Christ's servant love through our marriages.

Pray for Kelly and I to love our kids as Christ loved the world, selflessly.

Pray for all of us that our actions, words, and how we love them and each other leave so many questions when we leave that can only be explained through Christ's love.

Pray against any evil plans.
Specifically, please pray against nightmares, mental infiltrations, and fear.
That the Lord and His army of angels would protect us and keep us safe.

But most importantly,
please pray that we would boldly and courageously LOVE them as Christ loves us.

We love you and can't wait to share what our Father did and is doing when we return!


Friday, September 05, 2014

Family on Mission - Part 4

Most of the time on this blog you hear from me. 
A couple of posts ago you got to hear from Kelly.
Here are the posts in case you didn't get a chance to read them.


But now I'd like to let you hear from our 21 year old son.

Meet Kiir.


Soccer fanatic, Ethiopian by culture, Sudanese by blood, and a Carson through adoption. We met our son when he was a 17 year old senior in high school, and will celebrate his 4th "Gotcha Day" the week we return from our trip. He is the quietest loud person I've ever met. If you know him, you understand what I mean. I love when he gets in a talkative mood and will teach me something about Ethiopia or cooking. I could listen to him talk about Africa for hours! 

When we told him we were going on this trip and wanted to bring him along he looked at us like we were crazy. He response was actually "I mean, I want to travel and go out of the country but could we go somewhere else? I mean ANYWHERE else?"

Sorry son, this is the trip we are raising money for.
Take it or leave it.

He said yes.

Writing is his least favorite thing to do in the world, so the following is an interview between us and him to give you a little perspective.

Q-You had to accomplish a lot in order to get your US citizenship in time for this trip. What was that process like?
A-Stressful work just to get a passport so I can leave the country!



Q-Why do you want to go on this trip?
A-Because it's a family trip and you guys (my parents) are helping pay for it. And it's kind of an adventure - something that is good to do and can hopefully help others that go after us. I don't know. It's a different kind of trip. We can't do a whole lot of things but just be ourselves in front of them I guess.


Q-What are you most excited about?
A-Leaving the country. Going to an Asian country I've never been to.


Q-What are you most nervous about?
A-Safety. And being the only black person quite possibly visiting that country. I don't like being different.


Q-Who would you rather sit next to on this LONG overseas flight: mom, dad, or little brother?
A-None of the above. I'll trade tickets with someone else!

Really? You don't want to spend time juggling him around like this??? :)



Q-Do you think this trip is important?
A-Yes. Because we will be helping change the views of stereotypes and building trust. The hard thing is we can't do a lot when we're there. It's weird. But I guess we can help work on relationships with people that hate us.


Q-Any other comments or thoughts?
A-Yes. Next time can we go somewhere like Thailand to a nice, warm beach?


The conversation above is just a snippet of what we talked about. It was interesting watching him think. Hearing broken thoughts roll off his tongue as thoughts became words. This isn't the dream family vacation most kids would love to go on. He still isn't excited. But he's curious. He knows the need for us to go. And what he doesn't understand is that people will be drawn to him, adoring his skin and quiet nature, his smile and how he relates to and plays with his brother. 

This trip will have more impact from Kiir going than possibly any other person on our team.

Please join us in praying for Kiir.

Pray that he has peace.
Psalm 16:1

Pray for him to connect with one of our tour guides.
 Ephesians 6:19 
Deuteronomy 10:19

Pray that others see his amazing personality and his unique love for his brother.
Psalm 19:14

Pray that others are curious about adoption and ask more questions about it.
Romans 8:23

Pray for the concrete doors that in the past have been impenetrable, fall down and allow for hearts to change.
Hebrews 11:30
Ephesians 3:20




We are still not fully funded for this trip we leave on exactly 4 weeks from today.

If you would like to partner with us, you can do so in 1 (or more) of 3 ways:
FIRST...
You can pray for our family and our team. We are a small team of 13 traveling to this undisclosed location. We would greatly appreciate your prayers!

SECOND... 
You can purchase a t-shirt and the proceeds will go towards our team traveling funds.

If you would like to pre-order a shirt, please let us know ASAP!
Here is a picture in case you wanted to know what it will look like.
HERE is more info on the T-Shirt
 
THIRD...
You can give financially! Flying a family of 4 across an ocean is not a cheap endeavor. While we set aside money we have saved, it doesn't cover all of it by any means. If you would like to help us fund the rest of this trip, you can send a check, donate through PayPal (
HERE) or through our church online. Here is the info on how to pay through the church website:
1. Go to: http://firstirving.org/give
2. Create an account (or login if you have one)
3. Under "give to" scroll down and find "Korea 2014"
4. Then pick one of our names in the next box.
5. Put how much you want to give and method of payment.
If we raise more money than we need for our family, the rest will go toward helping fund others going on the trip, along with gifts we will take to the people we will be visiting. 

Stay tuned for Part 5 (the final segment) to come soon!

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Family on Mission - Part 3

*Post written by Kelly Carson

Shellie has shared in Part 1 and Part 2 of this 5 part series, a little bit about the calling our family has and why we want to go on this trip as a family. This third part is now written from my perspective (Kelly).

For those that have not read the first two parts, I highly recommend it. For those who just don’t have time, here is the quick summary:

Last fall, we decided that rather than taking a trip to Europe to celebrate our 10 year anniversary, we would instead use the money to take the family on a mission minded trip. So, in October we will be taking our entire family…yes our entire family including Lex, on a trip to an undisclosed location. We will be there for a week with a team of 13 individuals engaging in relational missions with a specific people group.

So when we discuss taking our entire family to this location, we usually receive some questioning looks. We have received these looks from our family, friends, and those who we have decided to share the details with. Now for some complete honesty, even I gave that look to Shellie when she originally suggested it. Now my reason is different than others. I am not concerned about safety like most. Instead, my questions came along the lines of “Are you serious…a 2 year old on a plane for 12+ hours?!?!?!” I also questioned whether Lex might be a distraction to the trip's overall purpose.

As Shellie and I discussed the matter more with our mission's pastor, I realized not only will bringing the entire family not be a distraction, but it could actually open up doors like never before. (Regarding the 12+ hour flight…well there’s no way around that one).

So, why was I so easily persuaded on bringing the entire family? Well, three years ago I actually got to visit this location with a group of 6 men. I saw first-hand the need for the gospel in this land and I also saw the barriers our group couldn’t break down because we were all men. When we spoke at our church afterwards, I even commented on the fact that not only did more people need to go, but we needed more diversity. 

I apparently forgot my comments when thinking about our own family.

You may now be asking, what doors can be opened by taking the family? For starters, I anticipate our family will raise some questions where we can explain the story of adoption within our own family and also our adoption into God’s family. (Romans 8:15). Second, we hope that sharing our family with them will show that we trust them and hopefully they will in turn start to trust us more. 

So as we prepare to go in October, I am reminded of the many people I got to see and engage with the last time I went. I look forward to sharing my family with these individuals and also sharing this experience with my family. This trip will be much different than the last in many ways, but my ultimate prayer is that we continue to build bridges and continue leading people closer to God.

In the meantime, if you would like to partner with us, you can do so in 1 (or more) of 3 ways: 

FIRST...
You can pray for our family and our team. We are a small team of 13 traveling to this undisclosed location. We would greatly appreciate your prayers!

SECOND... 
You can purchase a t-shirt and the proceeds will go towards our team traveling funds.

If you would like to pre-order a shirt, please let us know ASAP!
Here is a picture in case you wanted to know what it will look like. The awesomely talented Chuck Pope and Shellie worked on the design together. On a side note, it will be on really soft charcoal grey t-shirt material.
You can purchase one for $25.
(but you can always donate more)!
 


 
 
THIRD...
You can give financially! Flying a family of 4 across an ocean is not a cheap endeavor. While we set aside money we have saved, it doesn't cover all of it by any means. If you would like to help us fund the rest of this trip, you can send a check, donate through PayPal (
HERE) or through our church online. Here is the info on how to pay through the church website:
1. Go to: http://firstirving.org/give
2. Create an account (or login if you have one)
3. Under "give to" scroll down and find "Korea 2014"
4. Then pick one of our names in the next box.
5. Put how much you want to give and method of payment.

If we raise more money than we need for our family, the rest will go toward helping fund others going on the trip, along with gifts we will take to the people we will be visiting. 

Stay tuned for Part 4 to come soon!
 

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Family on Mission T-Shirts!

T-Shirts to support our trip
are on pre-order for 
$25 each!

This is another way you can support our family going on mission in October. If you want to read more information about it, here are some blog posts that explain. We have a few more posts that will be released before we head out in October.


The first order of shirts is going to take place in the next 2 weeks
so if you want one soon, place an order ASAP! 

They are super soft, dark grey shirts with white writing and a teal/blue outline.



When you place an order, make sure you include a note with how many shirts and what sizes for each shirt are being ordered! This is not tax deductible since you are paying for a good and therefore cannot be written to the church sending us.


If you would like to order a shirt,
you can pay 1 of 3 ways:


1. Mail us a check or money order
*Write in the memo line "Mission T-Shirt(s)"


2. Pay through PayPal
HERE is the link.
You can type in my email address or phone number, then put in the amount you want to pay and submit! If you don't have either of those and want to pay through PayPal, message me or comment below and I will get them to you!


3. Pay in person
*Cash, check, money order, gold, etc. We're not picky!


The t-shirts are $25, but you are welcome to donate more if you would like.
*If you need me to mail the shirt, I'll get you shipping info as well ($3-$5ish).


You can also donate toward the 
trip in general online. 
1. Go to: http://firstirving.org/give
2. Create an account (or login if you have one)
3. Under "give to" scroll down and find "Korea 2014"
4. Then pick one of our names in the next box.
5. Put how much you want to give and method of payment.